The Golden Rule. We’ve all heard it a million times before. “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” It’s a nice thought. Nice. Another forthcoming post will be all about how much I dislike that word. (Yes, sometimes I can be a hater, but it’s all in the name of self-love. ) Today I’m keeping my words short and sweet, so let’s get to it…
Here’s my revised and improved version of the Golden Rule: Treat yourself how you want others to treat you. Be your own best friend. We’ve all been wired to give, give, give until we’re completely tapped out, and then give some more. We drain our own energy because we feel obligated to family, friends, bosses, and coworkers to give of ourselves until we have nothing else to give, and then hope that it’s enough. All the while, we haven’t been trained to nourish and love ourselves so that we can replenish our energy of love. We think a day at the spa or getting a message every couple months is the same as self-love. I have BIG NEWS for you: It’s not. I have so many clients coming to me because, in their words, they want a more “balanced lifestyle.” Well, working your a$$ off on a regular basis is not balance.
But what IS balance? Honestly, most of the time I have no idea. Maybe it’s best so save that exploration for another forthcoming post too. But I will say this…You can’t love others until you love yourself. In the words of my girl Christine Arylo, author of Madly in Love with ME:
The more love you generate for yourself, the more love you have to give…love always creates more love.
Does the idea of self-love scare you? Confuse you? Do you equate self-love with narcissism, vanity, conceit, or self-centeredness? If so, in the next coming weeks I have some MAJORLY TRANSFORMATIVE information for you!! So if you haven’t already, bookmark my website: www.wildgrace.me and make sure you’re signed up for my newsletter (It’s where you put your email in and click “Subscribe”) so that you’ll receive the videos, meditations, activities, and exercises I’ve made for you…
So here’s my takeaway of the day: When you love, respect, nurture, and feed yourself, others will do the same, both for you and for themselves. Start setting an example of self-love and watch what happens around you. “If enough of us embrace love, the world will eventually be saturated with love. The love in the world begins with the love within ourselves.” ~Deepak Chopra (who is, incidentally, on instagram as @deepster2)